I think we should take a break, so I can have some time to myself to figure it out." (most likely said to make the other person feel better, so you can make a quick escape and move on).
It's exhausting and that's why I hear a sigh of relief when I ask clients to stop dating for a bit.
I share with them that this is a time to get to know who they are again.
Each will express their frustrations and have a genuine desire to not go through the same pain again, and yet when I suggest that they take a temporary hiatus from dating and relationships, it’s crickets.
Let’s get clear on what a dating and relationship hiatus is: It’s basically putting your romantic activities on pause so that you can take time to not only break a pattern but to also get to know you, so that when you do re-open your romantic doors, that you are coming from a healthier place.
After your ‘detox’, you can re-enter the dating world bright-eyed and bushy tailed, as well as personally secure because if you commit to your decision, you will also be far less likely to accept crumbs in future because you’ll have been a responsible provider and supporter of you – why would you accept less than what you can already do for yourself?