When a guy can challenge me intellectually, I literally get wet. When I see a guy in glasses, sitting behind a book on the train, I don't even see anything else. I once had a man approach me at a cafe and ask me about a Russian novel I was reading because he also loved Solzhenitsyn. A little talk of politics or our favorite authors and we are going to need to get it in immediately.Needless to say, buddy boy got my number and into my pants two weeks later. Ugh, I'm kind of turning myself on right now thinking about smart men in glasses telling me something about “Heart of Darkness” and allegories. Researchers from the University of Mexico have found a connection between a man's virility and his intelligence.
My colleague Maya Kosoff reviewed many of the most popular dating apps a few month ago, but when talking about them, we noticed there were some big differences in our experiences. Maya had to deal with things I never did, like being bombarded with gross messages from guys.
I'll readily admit that I'd f*ck someone ugly if he were super smart. I don't even care if he's an assh*le, as long as he's smart AF. It means you literally are attracted to intelligence. When you think about it, why shouldn't the brain be the thing we're attracted to? For some, foreplay is a little heavy petting, but not for the sapiosexuals of the world!
As the significant other, you will not get more details than necessary on anything unless you poke and prod. Related: The unconventional relationship is the norm in the military. However, in the civilian world, or in a relationship, it may be a little hard to deal with. Especially if he is coming from a higher rank, it may be increasingly difficult for him to “fall in line” with civilian life. Not every soldier comes home with post-traumatic stress.
It is a lot of work to break down those barriers and gain enough trust for him open up and be vulnerable. You need to understand this and realize how difficult it is. However, for those who do, there is nothing wrong with that.
Even though I am 36, most of the people I meet would think that I am only 26.