With this in mind, we asked Elite Singles’ resident psychologist Salama Marine for her thoughts on why some men are still put off by powerful women, and for her advice on dealing with the ignorance and finding love against the odds. On first impression, successful women are really attractive, and men like the idea of ‘conquering’ them.
I have an ongoing debate with several of my friends about whether men are actually intimidated by successful, assertive women.
For a long time, I believed this type of intimidation was, at best, a romantic-comedy myth invented to make flawless type-A women seem like victims. Lo in The Wedding Planner.) Or maybe it was a self-fulfilling prophecy, like how I never feel bad about my beach body until I am instructed to think about my beach body.
For a generation of SWANS — Strong Women Achievers, No Spouse — these myths have become conventional wisdom.
If you attended a good school, have an impressive job, have career aspirations or dream of future success, men will find you less attractive.
They remind these people of the existential crisis that cause their current state of being.